"Much research suggests that women have roundabout ways of telling their partners what they need." For instance, Bell says she used to make generalized requests of her husband such as "Please take out the trash." What Bell meant was, "Please take out the trash in the next 15 minutes." What her husband heard was, "Please take out the trash sometime this weekend." Separation from your husband isn't necessary, they claim, although it may be the only way to force change.The main point is, "once you've determined that making a change is really important, you must take a course of action and stick to it. So are garages, the back seat of the family sedan, and maybe a secluded corner of a public park, if the spirit so moves.The book's example scorecard includes such items as: don't take your anger out on me; do your own laundry; share the yardwork; teach each kid a sport; help plan birthday parties; don't turn every back rub into sex; stop paying ATM fees.Under a category called "Evolve," they asked their husbands to "find a therapist" and "be honest with yourself." "You must step back from your relationship and, to the best of your ability, look at it as you would a business problem," they advise.Bell and Brown concede: "We weren't exactly the most delightful people to live with, either.The nagging and screaming had become a vicious cycle: we were stuck in the role of Nagging Mom and our husbands had been cast as the Bitter, Sullen Teenagers." For wives who want to try this at home, the authors suggest first making an inventory of problem areas with your husband.With skyrocketed divorce rates (in the United States the divorce rate is roughly half the marriage rate) its easy for people to point the finger at the feminist movement as to the cause.But in reality there is so many other reasons why divorces happen: [Statistical Information from UK management consultants Grant Thornton.] Sexuality: Sometimes couples just aren't getting enough, or they just wanna a break from all the wham-bam-thank-you-mam. Emotional and physical abuse were more evenly split, with women affected in 60% and men in 40% of cases.
One spouse (the party that wishes the divorce) backhands the other, looks at him or her, and says N'Gos tlhogh cha! Friends of the 'Toxic' singer like told reporters she was "fooling around" with music producer J. Rotem before she officially split from Kevin in November 2006. How to do it: draw up a 'scorecard' and read him the riot act.
The new openness is not just an attempt to keep the oh God! Couples should draft a "sexual agreement" as to how often they will have sex, and to share responsibility for initiating it.
He also advises they create a "sexual garden" of acceptable acts.
Then, 'no going back.' Julia Mc Kinnell - June 12th 2006. Brown's husband was surly and uncommunicative and directionless in his career.
"We were so anxious to get rid of our spouses that we even helped them pack. Independently (neither woman was aware of the other at the time), Brown and Bell booted their mates out, believing that their marriages were over.