“I have learned a lot since then through individual counseling.
Too many times, I will read something in a book only to look up to God and ask, ‘Why didn’t I read this five years ago?
Still, the black cloud can be dispelled even at this stage, and often is, if the couple looks into the horrible consequences of divorce and decides they just won’t go there. Until someone calls a lawyer.“All it takes is one confused spouse who thinks that divorce will solve their unhappiness,” said Michelle Gauthier, founder of Defending Holy Matrimony.
One man I spoke with, now divorced, took Scott Hahn’s Christian marriage class with his theology-major fiancée.
Another couple, now divorced, made the twin sacrifices of building a large family and allowing the wife to stay home — because, in the ex-husband’s words, “Simpleminded me, I looked at every sacrament as precious and worthy.” Two others, now divorced, helped at their parish and were sacrificing to send their kids to Catholic schools.
Parejko said she’s skeptical about claims that assenting Catholics have a lower divorce rate.
“I’ve seen that the problem is just as bad for Catholics, and even what I call devout Catholics, as the rest of the country,” she said.