At a restaurant recently, I couldn't help but overhear a conversation between two women sitting at the neighboring table.
One was uncertain and disillusioned in her marriage of 20-plus years. He wasn't there to defend himself but it seemed as if he couldn't do much of anything the right way.
It brought me back to a moment seared in my mind: My then-husband and I were in the couples therapist's office trying to understand why our marriage imploded.
Suddenly, he glared at me angrily and, pointing his finger, accused me of having to have the bed pillows placed a certain way.
Beta-Boy’s response is “No, I love you for who you are honey…I still think you look great! He’s married to a pig, and therefore he’s a pig-lover. I can almost guarantee you men in this situation aren’t getting “laid like tile” and are getting, at best, crappy drip fed sex.
Their wives don’t see this pig-lover as having a shot at anyone better than them, so why should they shape up their act, sex up their man properly, appreciate their man properly and lose weight?
You'll find yourself pondering "lonely" versus "alone." And while there may indeed be someone better "out there" for you, you aren't going to have all that much time to find him, depending on your custody arrangement. My former husband and I had an amicable divorce, we co-parent well and we're both happier solo.One of my best friends is a big dude (6’6″) who got way fatter after college, and his wife is a skinny minny, but dude is an super confident AMOG and could punch well above his rank if he wanted to.This is sort of beauty and the beast theme, and I think part of it is many women are ok having a big bear of a man since it makes them feel smaller and safe.We're mad that having children has turned our lives upside down much more than theirs.We're mad that these guys, who can manage businesses or keep track of thousands of pieces of sports trivia, can be clueless when it comes to what our kids are eating and what supplies they need for school.