As liberal as your partner and community are, there is much to be said about the decades of internalized racism that his/her parents might harvest.In this article about meeting the parents when you are in an interracial relationship, David Schiller gives some good tips, like pretending that you like all the food and refraining from mentioning race at all. Even if you think your family is totally cool and not the least bit racist, it might still come as a surprise when you show up for dinner with a person from ___ race. Some of these questions might be well intentioned, but ignorant and painful nonetheless.Couples often face hurdles or “rough spots,” such as money problems, disease, employment troubles, and so forth.
If the two of you can’t withstand some negative associations with interracial dating and racism, then your love probably wasn’t that strong to begin with.
However, if the relationship is strong, then the hardships can actually make the couple grow closer together.
Couples in an interracial relationship face hurdles right from the get-go.
The typical advice about interracial dating says to “just ignore it.” In reality, it won’t be so easy.
You might have to adjust your relationship to avoid the discomfort and general displeasure of society.