Reader: New to your site, I’ve enjoyed much of what I’ve read so far. Absolutely beautiful, and with whom sex is out of this world. My wife (48) and I have been married for over twenty years. In the last 5 or 6 years, our sex life has gone from bad to worse to becoming virtually non-existent. Almost two years ago, I met and fell in love with another woman (35).You having a higher Sex Rank than your wife does make you leaving her or having an affair a higher probability outcome.However that being said, I’m not really in the business of advising how to have an affair and then make the transition from dumping your wife to moving to a new woman.You should give a fair warning and not cheat on your spouse.
The problem is that, despite all the above, I am still prevaricating.When she’s 45, you’ll be 59 and possibly dumped by her as too old anyway.There’s no way to tell if she’s going to be a good stepmom… This is why when I wrote the MAP I was insistent on taking the moral high ground.I feel little or no sexual attraction to her, but do feel a strong compassionate bond, and find myself wondering, probably naively, whether marriage counselling could help.At the same time, I know that it could never approach anything like I have with this other woman, with whom I can honestly say I’m passionately in love.