It’s unfortunate, but, most recently the news has been filled with ministers and pastors getting caught out there sleeping around, and sexing many of the women, and men, in their congregations. Here’s the thing: You and your pastor boyfriend need to have a serious conversation. Also, know that, especially now, that he is the pastor of a church the groupies are going to come out in full force.
And, it’s no secret that in the Black Church pastors, ministers, deacons, ushers, and the choir director are all sleeping with each other, or they are sleeping with most of the folks in the church. He is not above reproach, so, don’t be scared in approaching him to find out what his plans are for your relationship, and where he sees it going. I understand you are at another church and feel committed to that church, but if he is your man, and he is the pastor of your grandfather’s church, but, uhm, shouldn’t you be there? They are going to be throwing their Sunday church panties at him, if they are going to be wearing any at all.
She wants him, or they are already having an affair. You didn’t go into much detail about the intimacy of your relationship with him, and I understand that due to him being a pastor and your decorum as a church sanctified lady, but, err, ma’am, don’t sleep on this man and his needs and desires. If he is not getting it from you, then he will get it from someone who is willing to be his freak in the sheets, or under his robe. And, there are plenty of church women groupies who are willing to sneak in the pastor’s study, or in the sanctuary after the church is empty and slide up under that robe. There are some church freaks who will do the deed all in the name of the lord, while he is laying hands, literally! Don’t let that young lady run you out of your own house! Get him together, and sit him down and tell him to be honest with you and upfront. Don’t let the, “Praise the lord,” and “Hallelujah,” fool you!Don’t date someone who assumes that sex before marriage is alright since he is a man of God. And because you’re the closest person to him, you’re more likely to see his flaws more clearly than anyone else.Know the man, study the man and find out whether you’re compatible with the man first and foremost. It might shock you, but you’ll realize pretty soon that your pastor-boyfriend is human too. However, you must never compromise on genuine Faith in Jesus and love for the body of Christ.” Thank you to the pastors’ wives who were willing to give us such great feedback. One pastor’s wife told us that her role was like getting a job for which she never applied.And thanks to Chris Adams for doing the survey and to Amy Jordan for assembling the data. She wrote this funny script in her response: Husband: “Honey, I got you a job today.” Wife: “Really? I have plenty to do here running the household and raising the kids. Me stay home with the kids so you could fully dedicate yourself to the ministry.” Husband: “Yeah, yeah.