Forget the sugar-coating – being down-to-earth and direct will earn a lot more points with a Dutch man or Dutch girls. Friends also usually kiss three times on the cheek in greeting; some strangers may kiss when being introduced to someone through a common friend, although a handshake is more common. It is not uncommon to split the bill on the first date – right down to the last cent's worth of what you ate – regardless of whether your're dating a Dutch man or woman.While neither Dutch women nor Dutch men are renowned for being touchy on a first date, direct eye contact is the norm so don't be put off if someone is staring your way. This shouldn't come as a surprise considering you are in the country that gave name to the phrase 'going Dutch' (splitting a bill).While many foreigners initially find dating in the Netherlands daunting or inaccessible, understanding Dutch personality traits and mentality can help reduce miscommunicating the ‘flirting' signals as practised by Dutch women and Dutch men.Of course, similar to elsewhere, online dating in the Netherlands is increasingly becoming the norm as taboos are shed, particularly among older daters.This has changed the Dutch dating game in some respects as 'first dates' are moving to online dating platforms and social media.
You might find it less common to 'label' a relationship or have a talk about the direction of your love affair, even after several months of meeting.Reaching a serious relationship level can take time in the Netherlands because the Dutch can be cautious with letting newcomers in, whether it's a friendship or partnership – this is not necessarily personal as much as it is part of common Dutch personality traits.But it's not impossible – many foreigners report happy relationships and marriages with Dutch nationals. Learning the basics of Dutch culture can do wonders for your love life – and your Dutch life in general.While Dutch women might like it when men do this, they do not expect it.Such actions aren't seen as an affront to ladies but rather as a sign that Dutch men see them as equals – although some might say this is the unfortunate downside of equality when dating a Dutch man. Part of this has to do with the prevalent bike culture – have you tried biking in high heels and a mini skirt, through the rain?