But what I wasn’t prepared for even more is to actually feel that her explanation made sense.“Men are allowed to marry four women in Islam so technically he’s not cheating on his wife (as long as he’s not having sex with the other woman), this is like him trying to pick out a new wife,” she said.If you believe in this perspective of Islam which allows a man to have four wives as long as he can treat them all equally on all levels, then you’re very likely to agree with the above quote.
So it was only very ironic to have this conversation on the following day. What do you think of Muslim and other married men and women who do?
And then you have the opposite, where it’s like, you’re on these dating apps, and you have these hookups, and sometimes it works, and other times it doesn’t. But they don’t encourage ‘dating.’ They have encouraged me getting married. And you’re going to meet men — men who are not Muslim.
And you know it’s difficult because I do see that men do want to start flirting with me.
As much as I love sharing my dating stories, there are a lot of experiences that I haven't had. I was 11 years old at the time, and very naive in my understanding about the faith.
That's why, as part of It’s Not You, I'll be talking to people with a broad range of experiences to see how things are different — and how they're the same. I didn’t understand the politics of what 9/11 meant, and it was just a very tough time for Muslims in general.