Before you proceed, there are some things you need to know, both to preserve your sanity and ego as well as hers. But, albeit all your other intentions, you’ve met one and you like her. So, let’s assume for the sake of this article that you’ve moved past the novelty of nailing a “milf” (a stupid yet totally relevant word), and have begun to wrap your brain around and perhaps even embraced that this great girl comes with some, er… (I think “baggage”, no matter the negative connotations it brings, is the term), and you’re okay with the kids, minimal time to herself, baby daddy and most likely an ex that will be in her life forever, part of it all.You have to be an incredibly strong person to make it happen.It may be difficult at times, but I promise you; if you’re fortunate enough to find yourself with a single mom and you love her?Any shadiness or unreliability though puts her in an uncomfortable place and you will lose her. This is self-preservation and ultimately a mom protecting her cubs. This is not meant to scare you away, its more or less a way to gauge how easily you scare. It’s also a way of putting all her cards out on the table and hoping to find that you hold no poker face, but can handle it all. Look, no one wants to date someone whose ex is still in the picture.But he is and there may be a time when you meet him. it will be awkward at first and it does get easier, but be sure that this is something you can handle.Women are easy prey at night (Don’t yell at me ladies, I don’t mean it like that), but you get the text right and at the right moment, you could find yourself in a surprising, pretty intense round of sexting. I know that texting is not ideal and most men don’t see it as women do, which is a conversational platform. Do not complain about how busy or stressed you are. Chances are, she’s got everything going on that you have going on, yet when you’re day ends, her second (maybe third) job begins. Ask questions about their personality or who has her eyes.I know that texting has it’s downfalls; misread words, auto text, misinterpreted tone, but it’s important you understand that texting will most likely be a significant part of your relationship with a single mom. Please understand that this is not just a physically draining activity (drop-offs, pick-ups, sports, music, playdates, snack shopping, doctors appointments, lunch packing, dinner making, homework monitoring, bath time and a bedtime routine) that she does in addition to working full time, bettering herself, keeping friendships, keeping in contact with family, working out, putting gas in the car, laundry, dishes and now maintaining you, but is also a total emotional cluster fuck of worries, concerns, guilt, sensitivity and doubt (to name a few), all the while trying to raise human beings to not be total assholes (hopefully). If she tells you a story about one of them, maybe something they said or did at school, listen to her and try to see it through her eyes.
Indeed, subjects rated mothers as “less secure, less fortunate, less responsible, less satisﬁed with life, less moral, less reputable, less of a good parent, and less economically advantaged” when compared to the ratings of the single father, despite the fact the only difference in the vignettes were names and pronouns.
Maybe she’s trying to save the Dolphins as well and now you look for information on the slaughter in Taiji. Meeting the kids can be one of those awkward times. ” I would imagine as a guy, you will wait for her to ask you, but there’s an insecurity there that maybe you don’t want to. Whatever skill set you have and have used in the first three months of dating a girl I’m sure has worked beautifully in the past. I think it’s fair to say, that a woman with children has some experience with men. She may surprise you with how cool she is, how understanding she is knowing how things can come up and plans change.
She may feel concerned about what to do with all of you. If you initiate the meet and greet, it gives her confidence and tells her that you really care and also gives her the opportunity to plan something, talk about it or tell you it’s too soon. And at first, a single mother will seem vulnerable and privy to your ways. She will be forthright with her intentions, expecting the same from you. A single mother may feel inclined to divulge all of her ugly to you right outta the gate.
Despite also being a car-less, transit-using single parent who can’t remember the last time I had a regular weekly recreational activity not related to the eight-and-under set, I found myself marveling at this friend’s sacrifices.
Then I found myself annoyed that I had slipped into such a typical line of thought.