It makes me wonder if pre-industrial societies had it right when men and women didn’t expect their mates to be their best friends, and instead found companionship with same-sex friends 2) The way that women get blamed simply for being women and having some emotional needs to–guess what? According to Carter, men want to be with a “cool girl” and a “cool girl is basically someone who is unpredictable, fun, emotionally balanced, has no insecurities, easygoing, and independent.” Ummm, is this true? This marketing campaign is obviously aimed at a very mainstream, middle American audience.Are there really that many men who prefer not to deal with emotions at all?Don’t be “predictable”, or his attraction will magically end (must I be in a different country each time he calls…? Don’t discuss any emotional issues at all, ever, God forbid, or it’s all over, period 4. The way to create a great emotional connection with a man is to never burden him with your emotions.Don’t assume that just because you’ve been dating for months you’re in a “relationship” (WTF? Try to appear at all times to be a)selective b)unemotional c)hard-to-get d)a robot woman 6. It’s hard to imagine exactly what this great emotional connection consists of, except the idea that the man “feels great” when he’s with you, better than when he is single, and you as the woman are not constantly analyzing the relationship.
Imagine being able to amaze your friends, family, co-workers or even complete strangers.
I clicked on the link–“The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes Women Make”–and found myself swimming through simple, one-sentence direct-mail style paragraphs, like: feeling in your stomach? And then the thing you KNEW would happen actually happened: He unexplainably disappeared from your life. ” Of course, the worst part wasn’t that it happened, but that you KNEW you shouldn’t have done it in the first place… Christian Carter offers to tell women how to avoid the ten fatal mistakes most women make with men, or how to engage and attract a man right after you meet in person, if you are so good as to enter your credit card number to receive his e-book.
I was vulnerable to that horrible ad because I recently heard something along the lines of “I’m just looking for something casual.” Somehow I find that impossible not to take personally.
3) At the same time, I hate sitting around with a group of women complaining that “All men are dogs,” etc.
I know men are more complicated than that and that there are men who are out there who really want to connect with other men as friends and women as partners (or men if they are gay).