The best thing you can do is just be there, and the rest will work itself out in time.
If you are open about yourself and your feelings, it will show your new partner that you are taking the relationship seriously – which is a big deal for them if you are the first person they've been with since the death of their spouse."Opening yourself up to the person you are considering dating will let them know that you are emotionally mature and that you can face the occasional pain that their memories can cause and show them that you may require emotional support as well.
Even just saying it would make me cry for some time. [My partner] accepted it, although he acknowledged it made him feel as though I didn't let him into my life.
This can help a widow or a widower gently move out of the 'victim' state of mind." This will put you both on a more equal footing.
If everything is out on the table, then you'll be in a better situation to move on.
If you don't respect your date for the emotional pain they've been through, consider moving on."It's not only your partner you have to respect, but their feelings, family and their late spouse too.
This means choosing your words carefully when talking about their late spouse.